Tips for dating someone in aa
Recovery is a time for self-care and reflection, establishing structure and controlling urges.
Most weeks, Saturday nights are spent at 12 step meetings.
People in Hazelden-style recovery (Nagy calls them “PIRs”) can present challenges, since, as Nagy learned by dating several of them, stopping drinking or using is not necessarily the end of the matter.
Readers should know that the book is written from the perspective of a member of Al-Anon, who is also a firm believer in the 12 Steps.
I’ve had many periods of sobriety, from a paltry four months to a lengthy seven years (and everything in between).
But if dating people who participate in AA or NA is not your thing, than Nagy suggests dating people from SMART recovery, Secular Organizations for Sobriety, church, mental health peer support programs, therapy groups, and so on.
Her own experience, however, appears mainly limited to men in and out of 12-Step recovery programs.
And she correctly points out that the AA Big Book is “written in an old-fashioned style that hearkens back to the 1930s,” when the amateur self-help group known as AA was founded.
It’s easy to forget that there are common experiences that most recovering addicts are heir to.